Yet Another Kiri Bloggish Thing

Jul 27







If you think all Black people’s blogs are “social justice” blogs, you’re racist.

I read some newspaper article recently that pretty much summed up Tumblr and the responses to it this way—privileged people who come here are shocked to see marginalized people talking about their experiences, so they think everyone’s just obsessed with social justice, rather than talking about their own lives.


Also, for many white people activism (and interacting with or professing care for people outside of their race in general) is tied with immaturity.  For them it’s often just a pit stop on the way to embracing the system and adopting the same ideals as their parents.  

It’s something they “do” in their teens and early twenties to be different, to be noticed, to feel superior, to feel significant, to show that they’re an independent thinker and their own person.  Knowing the ins and outs of an issue isn’t really as important as “finding their voice” and the point is to be as loud and annoying to “the establishment” (Their parents) as possible to show they’ve grown up.  In this effort they often change causes more often than underwear without accomplishing much.

Deep down they know they’re full of shit and so do their parents, which is why they put up with it up to a point. (The quote  ”If you’re not Liberal when you’re 25, you have no heart. If you’re not Conservative when you’re 35, you have no brain.” really comes into play here. This is the standard progression for white people who have no “skin in the game”.)  

Young white liberals become white conservatives (or “moderates” as they now prefer to call themselves) either when they get a job or have kids and they no longer need something artificial and foreign to them to give them a sense of purpose and importance OR when their repeated half-assed attempts at playing white savior are met with genuine criticism by the people they’re talking over and not helping.  At that point they decide that “I’ve done all this for ‘these people’ and it’s not enough — I guess the stereotypes were right.”

SO…  I think when white people see people of color and other oppressed groups advocating for themselves on Tumblr, Twitter and elsewhere online, they project their experiences onto others.  For them “tumblr activism” is like their activism phase… something you can throw off and on at a whim and which doesn’t really affect you.  They may have patience at hearing about oppression at first but after a while they get bored with it and want you to move on… to grow up… and grow out of it… like they did.


Just adding links, cheering quietly, and munching popcorn over here.


"Haha! Americans don’t have free healthcare!"

Yeah it’s actually a serious problem people are literally dying can this stop being a silly nationalistic insult?

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i love how tumblr is like personally offended by 50 shades of grey

#we all read better fanfiction

#we all WRITE better fanfiction


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[Image: a woman holding up a sign reading, “Keep the kids; deport the racists.”]

No explanation needed.

[Image: a woman holding up a sign reading, “Keep the kids; deport the racists.”]


No explanation needed.

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Jul 26

Anonymous said: Just because socialization is used against trans women doesn't mean that it's untrue that trans people are socialized in the opposite gender. And that this does matter. I wouldn't ever deny that I have male privilege by being at trans man, but I also have challenges that come from being raised to act how women are expected to and then suddenly being judged by how poorly I measure up to how men are expected to act. (assertiveness, confidence, etc)



what is this “opposite gender” business you speak of?

try “other binary gender” instead

socialization is individual enough that you can’t apply blanket statements, and as such doing so is functionally useless. don’t tell anyone else what their socialization was like. i was “female socialized” and I’m confident and assertive. In fact, even within cis people you are going to get significant differences (for example, a white cis woman is going to have different socialization from a latinx cis woman, this varies even more with race/ethnicity/class).

There’s also an element to this in which trans men and nonbinary cafab trans people use the concept of “socialized as $gender to benefit themselves, gain access to spaces that they might not otherwise have access to (women only spaces, for example) and use cissexism to their benefit via strategically degendering themselves by referring back to “female socialization.”

And the flip side of this is that the socialization argument is used to promote this idea that trans women and nonbinary camab trans people are “really men” and thus need to be controlled/managed/denied access to spaces and resources that we also need (such as DV and rape shelters, women’s clinics, etc.).

The entire “socialized as $gender” thing benefits cafab trans people at the expense of camab trans people, and is frequently (I would also say “primarily”) used to promote transmisogyny.

It is also not entirely accurate because race, economic standing, disability, education, and other factors play significant roles as well. Like according to the whole socialized as $gender thing I was supposedly raised to be assertive and confident and entitled, while my sister is supposed to be meek and passive. The reality is, however, that my sister is hugely entitled, to the point that she literally thinks everyone owes her whatever they have because she doesn’t like having to pay bills. Her father basically taught her that she could scapegoat myself or my mother for any reason, and she could get away with it because he would back her up. 

On the other hand, due to my upbringing, I developed complex PTSD and that in combination with other mental illnesses, neurodevelopmental issues, being a trans woman and how I get treated for being a trans woman leaves me feeling like I am supposed to apologize for existing at all times. And this is how I was as a child and a teenager before I transitioned. It took me a couple of decades to get out of this pattern and assert myself.

Like I don’t see a problem with trans men or anyone else locating issues with self confidence or assertiveness etc. wherever seems right for them, but when they start using this to create a totalizing narrative to the point that I have literally had trans men violate my boundaries and mansplain to me what they think my life was like and expect me to accept their narratives over my real life experiences because of these fictitious monolithic “male socialization” and “female socialization” ideas - like being talked down to, being talked over, being silenced… I am not sure how anyone does this without perceiving the irony of their own actions.

I have also seen abusive trans men use this specific tactic to silence trans women (whom they abused) who talked about having a girlhood or were trying to claim self-determination in describing their own lives.

And I mean I am not saying all trans men are abusers. What I am saying is this particular socialization narrative is frequently used to abuse, silence, objectify, degender, and dehumanize trans women, while it also seems that trans men are able to deploy it for their own benefit.

Reblog if you are female and in the star trek fandom.

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The authority you need here to coin a word is gonna be a dictionary, and before we talk about how to get into one, we need to deconstruct the idea of what a dictionary is. Which may seem a little dumb, but I promise you, most lexicographers (dictionary-writers) have exactly the opposite view on language than people think they do.

Dictionaries are mostly used by prescriptivists, that is, people looking for the One True Spelling (or Meaning) of a particular word. The dictionary is correct and flawless and complete, and deviations from it are by definition (heh) wrong. Hence the idea that any word not in the dictionary is not a “real” word.

But dictonaries are mostly made by descriptivists. Rather than prescribing correct usages and spellings, lexicographers are describing the language as they find it. They take in thousands of examples of words in use, whether from well-established academic texts or from awesome pop song mashups, and try to write a definition that covers those usages. And since people are constantly using language in new ways, the dictionary is never complete and never totally correct.

” —

The Language Nerd, on “To Coin a Phrase”

Came across a blog with some nice, concise posts about language and linguistics. Check it out

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Repeating for emphasis: "And since people are constantly using language in new ways, the dictionary is never complete and never totally correct."

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blows my mind that women are considered shrill and whiny when all i have to do is insinuate that male feelings are not my #1 priority at all times and every indignant male in a 500 mile radius comes out of the woodwork to let me know how they feel

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So, work fucked up my paycheck yet again, and I didn’t get paid this week. I know some of you are aware of my shitty situation; BF’s cashing in the change jar and plastic bottles so we can get PB&J and food for the cats right now. If you have a buck or two you can donate here (I know a lot of you don’t, no worries) anything you could give is massively appreciated. If my local friends are reading, we would love any food you’re not using (and huge thankies to jadeneternal and rayvenloaf for what you already gave and we devoured.)


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I mean I guess maybe women should say “sorry” less, but I think mainly men should say “sorry” more.

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