March 2012
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Ack I still need to finish that transcript. >_<
So I will. And then I’ll make another video. ^^
step one: take out homework
step two: reward self with two hours of internet for getting that far
fuck cis feminism.
inflateablefilth:
I haven’t seen a single trans person deny that anti-abortion laws are often rooted in misogyny. I really haven’t. We’re genuinely not asking you to ignore this. However, when you’re talking about these things, when you say things like ‘this harms women’ or ‘this is bad for women’ or post anything with a picture of a uterus or a vuvla cupcake or whatever and talk about women...
February 2012
femmesandfamily:
raggedyanndy:
honestandunapologetic replied to your post: oH GOD I JUST NOTICED HE USED THE WORD “LADIES” …
you hate the word “ladies”??? nooo i love that word…i’m so used to b/c we always used it in volleybally. infinitely better than “female,” in my opinion, and i prefer it over “girl” or “woman” in certain contexts
When men use the word “ladies,” it just skeeves me out....
theoceanandthesky replied to your post: Sometimes I’m tempted to just completely stop reading blogs edited by cis people.
it’s self-preservation. sometimes i just try to avoid White people who identify as feminists or men-folk who write about women’s issues and just… yeah. i get it.
*nod* Yeah…
Also, gratefully accepting hugs from all the people who offered :)
How To Speak Of Sex-Selective Abortions In India...
woh-battameez:
I wrote this another space in early January, since I just mentioned sex-selective abortions in the last post and already have an ask to elaborate on why India hates the womminz, and am in a benevolent enough mood to not publicly mock the person, I’ll just quote myself. Because I damn well can.
With 2012 creeping in, it’s going to be a matter of time before feminist blogs from...
Sometimes I'm tempted to just completely stop...
Because no matter how good they try to be about trans* stuff — and some of them do their damnedest, and that’s certainly appreciated — they still end up stepping on us eventually; it’s only a matter of time.
And it’s like, I just get tired of having to steel myself for that every single goddamn time I want to read something. :( You know? Am I making any sense here?
nuditea:
“when one door closes, another one opens”
imagine how annoying it would be if that were true
you close the bathroom door to pee and your front door suddenly blows open
your cat escapes
you run out and jump into the car to chase the cat and hear everything falling out of your over-stuffed pantry as its door unlatches
… XD
ILY Satah.
For the umpteenth time
To everyone who responds to our call for trans* inclusion in reproductive rights movements with, “BUT ANTI-CHOICERS ARE ATTACKING WOMEN, NOT MEN, NOT NONBINARIES, WOMEN”:
I remind you that these people do not define “women” the way we do. These are people who think that I am a man, and who think that Thomas Beatie is a woman. When they attack people they perceive to be...
i mean--that's the difference between white women...
theoceanandthesky:
milkeemountainmama:
they have entire organizations working on their visibility and doing research and taking notes on how many of who is getting published.
women of color (and i’m using this as a political term rather than a racial description) get a blog post.
and then get punched in the face for writing the blog post.
so while i strongly support people like champagne...
534) You know, I really like being a girl.
transgalacticwanderer:
Yep, that pretty sums me up! living as a woman just makes so much more sense than the 18 years I spent trying to be male.
Yep! Being a lady is awesome :D
Any sentence toward a disabled person that runs...
eateroftrees:
> See picture of naked person with breasts.
> Get confused as to why no penis
lol, I do this too. ‘s what happens when all your girlfriends have penises and when you follow naked trans lady tumblrs. :)
MOAR ANGER
redlightpolitics:
Well not really anger but a couple more thoughts around my musings on radical anger, feminism, etc. In my quest for a framework that includes ethics and praxis in feminist politics, I also started to scrutinize how the discourse surrounding reproductive justice is articulated in mainstream media. I am more interested in how the “pro choice” side comes across (because really, at...
13 Year Old Jada Williams Persecuted by the... →
thecurvature:
racismschool:
beautifulbrwn:
“On Saturday, February 18, 2012, the Frederick Douglass Foundation of New York presented the first Spirit of Freedom award to Jada Williams, a 13-year old city of Rochester student. Miss Williams wrote an essay on her impressions of Frederick Douglass’ first autobiography the Narrative of the Life. This was part of an essay contest, but her essay...
ponderings on porn tumblrs and consent
femmesandfamily:
So, if you run a quality porn tumblr, or a tumblr that shows nudes/sex/kink/etc, consent should be a vital part of your site.
Everyone in the pictures should have consented to not only what is going on in the pictures/videos, but also to the fact that there were pictures/video being taken.
If you disagree with anything above, stop reading. Because you are not a quality blog.
...
TMI Tuesday →
please and thank you
s.e. smith at this ain't livin': Intersectionality... →
theoceanandthesky:
But people who bring these things up are considered divisive and told to shut up. Are threatened for daring to speak to the complexities of a movement. I use the reproductive justice movement because it’s such a clearcut and obvious example of the case for intersectionality, because it illustrates in such a chilling way that many social movements are happy to win victories...
“Drawing a line between yourself and them bigots over there is not the path to...”
– sex, art, and politics:
Seriously though. This is, like, generally good life advice. If the first thing out of your mouth when confronted with the bigotry of a group to which you belong is ‘well but I don’t do that’ or ‘well a real member of Group X wouldn’t behave that way,’ I’m done listening.
...
“If [bullying a developer is] what ‘fans’ do, we don’t want...”
– BioWare’s Stanley Woo, in support of BioWare writer Jennifer Hepler, who has been threatened and harrassed and generally treated like shit by dude gamers for saying something they didn’t like six years ago.
It’s really sad that things like this need to be said.
workingsex:
“Some feminists want to stop men from seeing all women as whores. Well, sex worker advocates want everyone to stop seeing whores as something other than women, other than human. These goals are not the same, and radical feminists are not helping prostitutes as long as they are casting us off as something other than fully human.” — Sarah M. at rabble.ca
Great article. It’s a...
I love compersion :D
...I am mangling the English language today.
Maybe I shouldn’t write any more until my head is straightened.
Been reading some fundy anti-queer things lately, as sort of a “know your enemy” type deal. What frustrates me is the way they seem to change their entire argument, sometimes even their premises, based on which way the wind is blowing.
For example, they’ll insist that trans* people must remain “the way God made them” because you can’t “truly...
What is cultural appropriation « The Long Way Home →
ardhra:
O hai! I finally finished writing this! After starting it more than two years ago {facepalm}. There is more to come that I’ve worked on & researched. Hopefully responses to this won’t be so faily that I’m unmotivated to finish the rest.
Excerpt:
There are a number of issues around cultural appropriation which I see continuously bog down discussion. I think they revolve around...
The connection between self-help fanatics and...
youneedacat:
I figured out something I couldn’t explain before about the way some people use social justice jargon.
A long time ago there was this time period when I’d keep meeting people who said they were really into self-improvement and 12 step groups and stuff. And the more intense the person was about saying this, the more I learned to back the hell off.
Because what they’d invariably...
A follow up to that last post [TW for discussion...
triangularisthepie:
I don’t think spanking had a huge negative impact on me, comparatively speaking, which is why I don’t talk about it much. For me the emotionally abusive/toxic atmosphere in my household was a much bigger factor in the issues I have now.
But that doesn’t mean that spanking had no effect whatsoever. It just means it’s harder to pinpoint under the other stuff. And it doesn’t...
Things on my dash lead me to believe that this is...
triangularisthepie:
[TRIGGER WARNING for discussion of abusive parenting]
But I don’t think it’s okay to hit kids. Ever! Under any circumstances.
Look, I don’t have children. I never plan to! I suspect I would be a terrible father. But I have parents, and I was spanked a couple of times for doing thigns wrong when I was young.
It didn’t teach me anything. It taught me that doing the wrong...
Things I wish I could say to certain family...
You don’t need to tell me that you “disagree” with my transition. I know. You don’t need to make a big production of it every single time we talk.
My gender is entirely settled in my mind. I am not the one “confused”; you are.
If your entire sense of our relationship is thrown out of whack because you don’t know how to relate to me as a female relative...
filipinafeminist replied to your post: Okay, seriously, hormones, this isn’t cute anymore.
you might want to add a trigger warning to this! just a head’s up. :)
Ack yes I’m sorry! Will fix immediately!
[trigger warning] Okay, seriously, hormones, this...
Like, I guess I should be grateful for you helping me fight my eating disorder, but… seriously. Stop making me need to eat fucking everything in sight. It’s getting a little old.
Yes, I'm a social construct. What of it?
I’m aware that, when I say that “I’m a woman”, I am partly basing the meaning of that statement on what I was raised, and still am told by the surrounding culture, to believe about that concept. Hell, I myself have repeatedly argued against the TERFs’ notion of “natural” vs. “constructed” women by saying that all women are constructed women.
I...
on physically punishing your children
ouyangdan:
sanaa-tamir:
nezua:
being hit as a child teaches you many things, i’d guess. mostly, it teaches you that might makes right. and as a child, you will have no argument against that. and so it is likely that you will learn it well.
being hit as a child may teach other things. but below and beyond intellect and language, it teaches you rage. because as a child, in the context of...
revelationk asked: You make me smile so much.
Trigger Warning -- talk of rape
woh-battameez:
I’m furious. Bear with me tumblr.
Avaaz reports that a woman was raped on gunpoint last week, the police jeered at her, questioned her “morals” and then to add insult to injury, the Chief Minister of West Bengal — who accidentally happens to be a woman — ridiculed her. Now, Avaaz is petitioning so that Mamta Banerjee apologises to the woman in question.
I DON’T EVEN KNOW WHERE...
Look
Reclaiming my body is a hugely difficult task, one that people who don’t even know me are continually determined to fight me on. And since I’m a little weakling and don’t often have enough spoons to parlay this struggle into Activism that esjay people would approve of, sometimes that just means posting pictures of myself and posting rants about how I need people to stop...
…some dude just called my work — my work — and started hitting on me.
As if I wasn’t already shaken/triggery enough. God fucking dammit. :( This week just keeps getting better and better, huh? *sigh*
My block list has nearly quadrupled in size.
Just from people saying “BUT I DON’T WANT TO RESPECT YOUR BOUNDARIES SO JUST GET OVER IT”.
These are people who don’t even know me, too. That’s what gets me: not only are they opposed to respecting someone’s boundaries, but they’re opposed (vehemently! viscerally!) to even the hypothetical possibility of such.
I don’t need those people’s...
No, I'm not okay.
And likely won’t be for a while.
It wasn’t just the threat I got; that was just the last straw.
Don’t know what I’m gonna do, or when I’ll be 100% again. Sorry, all.
In other life updates I have $11 to last me until...
triangularisthepie:
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Help Dorian out! He’s a sweetheart and I want him to be okay.
...I just got a rape threat.
For that “don’t call me ‘man’” post.
I got a rape threat for asserting my boundaries.
I’d comment on that, but really, I think it speaks for itself.
maevele replied to your post: Still bums me out that I have no family. :(
family is overrated. I’ve lost everyone but my mom, and I’m better for it
Oh, I won’t deny that the lack of contact is probably for the best. We’ve grown too far apart. It just… ugh, I’ve no idea how to deal with that reality emotionally.
Still bums me out that I have no family. :(
whencylonsdream replied to your post: Having said that, though…
I like combat in games~ but I’d be all for a game that was mostly dialogue features and choices. Bioware has touched on this but I feel it could be a lot better.
For me, it all depends on the implementation. I liked it in the Mass Effect games, but in Dragon Age (as in most RPGs with turn-based battle systems) I simply found...
eateroftrees replied to your post: Having said that, though…
Skip combat is definitely a good feature to have although i probably wouldn’t use it.
Well, in a game like Skyrim, it wouldn’t really make much sense. I could easily see it working in BioWare games, though, since they tend to be more linear.
Having said that, though...
…I actually kinda like the idea of having the option to skip combat in RPGs.
Role-playing games (I’m talking about the pen-and-paper kind here) are fantastic, because they allow players to create their own story as they go. Videogames aren’t nearly advanced enough to allow that sort of thing yet, but a lot of videogame RPG developers have found ways to create the illusion of...
see-reverse-side replied to your post: see-reverse-side replied to your post: I wanna…
OH NONONO! You don’t have to do that! I think you have a valid opinion here Kiri. I recognize that my peferred modes of gameplay are probably boring and it’s not as if I haven;t played the hell out of Skyrim of Mass Effect or Dragon Age or KOF XIII.
If you don’t find them boring, then...
see-reverse-side replied to your post: I wanna play good videogames too, you know!
I agree, but I also feel bad because I like challenge-less visual novel bullshit…. like, A LOT :( But yes, interesting gameplay please.
…fuck, I didn’t mean to make anyone feel bad. :( I was speaking from my own personal tastes, but I totally see how it can be read as attacking, and I’m sorry...
I wanna play good action/strategy-type videogames...
I’m tired of this idea that, just because I’m a woman, I must only want challenge-less visual novel-type things.
I mean, can people really not see how sexist that is? “Oh, your ladybrain is scared off by challenging and mechanic-focused games, so we’d better just give you some way-too-easy and/or interactive movie shit instead!” No. Stop treating women like...