February 2012
Are we really all worrying about coddling the...
inflateablefilth:
I’ve seen so many ‘don’t be mean! If you’re nice they’ll change!’ posts today, seriously. Which frankly, is really fucking frustrating. No, I don’t want to be nice to people who see me as inferior. And if them seeing me as human is dependant on my politeness then I don’t want them anyway. Like with any kind of privilege axis, if allies are only allies when we’re nice to them,...
um. i'll wrestle you, kiri.
dopegirlfresh:
for cara’s lovins.
lol
heh.
i’m so incorrigible.
…this… has me Thinking Thoughts. >_> Yes.
“What really makes me uncomfortable is when Aspie campaigners couch that...”
– Polly, quoted in Aspergirls, by Rudy Simone (via youneedacat)
Yes! This! Now, I do, do maths reasonably well, when I put my mind to it, but there is no special interest there at all. When I tell people I’m an Aspie, they so often seem to think that means that I’m good with numbers or have the first...
Game Shows
dopegirlfresh:
thecurvature:
Can we even begin to imagine a good looking man in a nice suit, but with his shirt open to expose a significant portion of his chest, strutting and posing next to a game show prize while softly running his hands over its sleek contours to highlight its features?
Because the idea sounds pretty fucking absurd.
Which ought to be a damn good hint as to why this...
impromptuonedykedanceparty:
eateroftrees:
shiyiya:
eateroftrees:
I mean I explained this in detail to my mom and she was basically like “Well we’d appreciate it if you were better at this”.
I’d appreciate it if you were able to create teleportation portals at will to anywhere on the planet, but its not like I’m my approval of you as a person is inextricably linked to it.
REALLY NOW.
The...
lol MRAs
So, uhh, that video that was going around, of the woman defending herself against the man attacking her?
I saw someone call that “misandry”.
Yep, you read that right. This guy honestly thinks that, if you refuse to allow a man to beat you up, that means you institutionally hate men.
I love those moments when the mask slips and you see these “sensible rationalists” who...
abandontheships:
which part of being a parent says that your kids are supposed to owe you their eternal gratitude for providing basic food and shelter for them?
like
isn’t that part of the job description of being a parent? doing so if you’re able? how the fuck can you say that you love your kid and then explode at them because you just aren’t quite abusive enough yet for them to have to move...
the baddest bitch of her age.: EPIC SELF CARE POST →
theoceanandthesky:
youarenotyou:
Self care according to the senses:
Scent. Burn scented candles or incense. Pick some fresh flowers or herbs for your home (basil = heaven). Fry onions or garlic if it’s your thing (it’s definitely mine). If you can afford to, buy some essential oils…
EPIC is right. <3
Personal Bill of Rights
theoceanandthesky:
They handed this out in my stress class today. I thought some of you might like it. 1. I have the right to ask for what I want. 2. I have the right to say no to requests or demands I can’t meet. 3. I have the right to express all of my feelings, positive or negative. 4. I have the right to change my mind. 5. I have the right to make mistakes and not have to be...
You Know You're Trans* When: #2276 A church group...
^ Pretty much.
The Cycle of Transmisogyny
autumn-and-eve:
The CAMAB trans person’s gender identity is erased, and they are viewed as a man
Being a man, they are held to binarist standards of masculinity
Being that they present themselves in a feminine manner, their masculinity is nonexistent
As a male’s masculinity (or, perceived male’s) is fundamental to his legitimacy, the CAMAB trans person is debased and marginalized.
When a...
It's occured to me.
lucypaw:
sanaa-tamir:
That all this “get over it” and “gosh, it’s not personal” shit is connected. No one wants to believe they’re complicit in someone else’s pain… unless they’re an admitted douche, which is somewhat different and not what I’m referring to here. All this denial, all these excuses for why these folks are decent people and how very dare anyone imply that they’re not, is...
“A year ago this month, Jordan Miles, an 18-year-old music student at...”
– A Beating In Pittsburgh (1/24/2011)
You want a verdict? Fuck this whole goddamned system.
(via humanformat)
Unfuck the police. I particularly love how victims, almost inevitably people of colour, are always charged with the assault that the police make on them.
(via lucypaw)
(tw: abuse) yay seeing people defend abusive...
youarenotyou:
if brandishing a gun and destroying your kid’s stuff when they piss you off (otherwise known as threatening with violence and intimidation) isn’t abuse then what is? the fact that this guy can upload a video of this on the internet and get widespread praise is a product of abuse culture intersecting with ageism and misogyny.
in what world is this shit okay? newsflash, fear of...
“…though there are many cis individuals who I trust (including but not...”
– Tchy
I won’t either. And if you’ve got a problem with that, help change it by addressing the reasons for it.
Feelin' cuddly tonight. :3
Anyone wanna cuddle with me?
“educating people will never be enough because ignorance is not the problem....”
– -ornicusorcatapdance
CAN I JUST COSIGN THIS. BECAUSE THIS RIGHT HERE, THIS IS WHY SOMETIMES WE DON’T HAVE THE ENERGY TO EDUCATE YOU. THIS IS WHY WE GET ANNOYED WHEN YOU ASK US SHIT THAT YOU COULD HAVE JUST LOOKED UP ON GOOGLE IF YOU REALLY GAVE A FUCK.
(via theoceanandthesky)
Not dealing with any cis (or cis-apologist)...
Don’t test me. I mean it.
On use of "stalking"
femmesandfamily:
[tw stalking, sexual assault, non-consent]
In popular culture, the word “stalking” has come to represent a lot more than actual stalking. It has come to stand for being really into something, visiting someone/something a lot, or spending a lot of time on one thing. In blogging communities it is used all the time.
I stalked her all night.
Sorry I keep stalking you.
I...
shiyiya replied to your post: Skype is a wonderful program.
Video chat is such a …godsend seems like a weird word to use here but I can’t think of a better one… for LDRs.
Yeah :)
I am still giggling.
I am SO HAPPY.
Skype is a wonderful program.
It makes me feel rather less distant from my boyfriend. :)
Luckiest girl in the Alpha Quadrant, right here :D
triangularisthepie replied to your post: He’s… so… HOT.
You two are delightful with each other. DId you know?
IT’S BECAUSE HE IS THE BEST DUDE THAT EVER… uhh… duded? Something like that. But yes.
He's... so... HOT.
I love just… watching him, as he surfs Tumblr and such :)
2 tags
I, uhh, just helped Tchy to orgasm.
:D
*feels accomplished*
...is it bad that I sometimes look at pictures of...
‘Cause umm. I do do that. >_> Hey, at least it help with the self-esteem…
the top ten 'feminist' lies and myths about... →
manifestfreedom:
also, this.
Extremely important.
Down to four partners. :(
It was nobody’s fault; it was just life getting in the way. But still, I’m pretty bummed.
Sometimes I wonder if I am much better on paper...
femmesandfamily:
that time when angie and I are the same person with the same thoughts
both of you get out of my brain
modernistwitch replied to your post: Okay, so here is the HIGHLY NSFW (and possibly…
Super cute!
Thank you :D
Okay, so here is the HIGHLY NSFW (and possibly triggery, if erect penises trigger you) link to the cutest picture I’ve taken of myself.
There are tons of things I like about this. One is that my hair is just the perfect degree of disheveled for what the picture is going for. Another is that the hormones are clearly working — my boobs are bigger, my penis is smaller, my skin is softer....
Aaaaaaand now I’m confusing exclamation marks with question marks. Wow, I really do need rest…
Being sick and needing cuddles? Not a good...
:/
theoceanandthesky:
one of my least favourite things about tumblr is that there are people who complain about people who write social criticism. they say, “instead of complaining about it on tumblr, why don’t you go out and change it?”
i’m sorry, i wasn’t aware that one couldn’t blog about frustrations that they have about the world and work to change them at the same time. believe it or not,...
I would love to show y’all what I consider to be the cutest picture I’ve ever taken of myself. But my boobs and my junk are visible in it, and I have a policy of not posting naked shit on my main blog (so that people who can’t view it for whatever reason don’t have to unfollow me). Would just linking to it be okay? :)
Today in "I can't believe I actually have to say...
I do not consider “getting along” to be a goal in and of itself. If I get along with somebody, it’s because there is mutual respect, compatibility, and love born of freedom.
Furthermore, I have less than zero interest in “getting along” with my oppressors. And no amount of “but they’re human beings, and you have to understand, and STOP FIGHTING YOU...
Nothing like photos of unconventionally attractive...
And to inspire her to take more later this week :)
Privileged navel gazing vs. the personal is...
redlightpolitics:
They are not the same. Even though reading some individual bloggers, I might be led to believe otherwise.
scattered thoughts i had on the train:
theoceanandthesky:
six white princesses and one black one isn’t equal.
six white princesses and one asian one isn’t equal.
six white princesses and one arabic one isn’t equal.
etc. etc.
and the thing is that you can’t say that you didn’t pay attention to princesses and then say that it’s equal to distribution of poc in the world, because number one that’s not true, but then basically you’re...
Sick today :(
At least now, with my aid, I have a bit of a buffer, so my missing work is not the end of the world.
(And I have plenty of food, so there’s that.)
I guess all I can do is keep trying to be okay.
I love you.
So uhh
I don’t think I’m gonna learn to make scarves in time. :/ Hopefully I can learn some other craft or something, because I see other trans folks using their skills to help finance their transitions and I’m super-inspired.
Sooo much cissexism and transmisogyny on Tumblr...
If you’re wondering why I haven’t been around much today, that’s why. I can’t today. *sigh*
“Shallow understanding from people of good will is more frustrating than absolute...”
– Martin Luther King, Jr., Letter from a Birmingham Jail
Reblog if you actually like getting messages from...
“I don’t believe you can meaningfully separate autistic people into...”
– Cal Montgomery (via youneedacat)
Answering questions and having "opinions"
redlightpolitics:
I love the internet. You won’t find a more staunch enthusiast of online communication than me. Hell, I even have a partner for 15+ years thanks to the internet. I have a rich social life in Amsterdam (and all over Europe, I’d add) that is organized through the internet, I get invited to speak at events because of what I write on the internet. Moreover, I sometimes get paid to...
Trans Sexuality - A Safe Sex Zine →
tobitastic:
Safe sex information is almost universally designed for non-trans (and straight) folks, and then that information is given to us when and where it applies. However, there is a lot of information that is unique to trans people and trans bodies that never gets included. This zine answers the question, what would sex ed look like if it was designed specifically for trans people and...