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Femme Mentorship Program

tchy:

fuckyeahhardfemme:

pompadoursandpincurls:

ellendjneres:

femmesandfamily:

This is a call for femmes on tumblr who are willing to serve as a mentor/guide/friend to younger/newly out/or isolated femmes.

I am looking for folks who are willing to be available for questions and conversation. 

I would like this group of mentors to represent the vast array of femme identities and intersections.  Trans* femmes, femmes of color, fat femmes, femmes with disabilities, femmes on the more dapper/more masculine side, working class femmes, femmes from countries other than America, and all femmes!

If you are interested in participating, please send me your blog name, your prferred name and pronoun (if you have one) and a short bio.  I am going to create a page on my blog that introduces all of the mentors.  I will also be giving out your information to those who request it.

If you can’t mentor but support this project, PLEASE SIGNAL BOOST.

And if you are looking for a supportive person to discuss your femme identity or life with, or just a caring person to reach out to, please request a mentor here.

THANK YOU.

So brilliant!

LOVE IT. SO DOWN.

fucking rad.

This is a thing that lots of people I know would love.

Freaking awesome.

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stfuhypocrisy:

The shit hit the fan in the trans blogosphere last night, when it came to light that there is a disturbing new section in the Identity Screening Regulations used in airports throughout Canada. Simply put, Transgender People are Completely Banned From Boarding Airplanes in Canada.

The offending section of the regulations reads:

5.2 (1) An air carrier shall not transport a passenger if …
(c) the passenger does not appear to be of the gender indicated on the identification he or she presents;

Although this obviously discriminatory smear of regulation did not come to significant public attention until very recently, it apparently came into effect on July 27th, 2011.

It is important to note that these regulations are not actually a piece of legislation, which would have had to pass through readings and votes in the House and Senate (which is probably why it went unnoticed until now). Rather, the Identity Screening Regulations are a set of rules implemented unilaterally by the Ministry of Transportation, as part of Canada’s so-called Passenger Protect, which is essentially the Canadian Federal Government’s equivalent to the U.S.’s “no-fly” list.

Minister of Transportation Denis Lebel is, of course, a federal Conservative MP appointed to the cabinet position by Stephen Harper.

So what does this mean? Well, in order to change the ‘sex’ designation on a Canadian Passport, the federal government requires proof that surgery has taken place, or will take place within one year. So for non-operative transgender persons, for gender nonconforming (genderqueer) persons, and for the vast majority of pre-operative transsexual persons, it is literally impossible to obtain proper travel documentation marked with the sex designation which “matches” the gender identity in which they live.

In the eyes of the honourable Minister of Transportation, that makes trans people unfit to fly in Canada.

It is interesting to note that this regulatory adjustment occurred immediately following the federal election in 2011. In the previous parliament, Bill C-389, a bill to amend the Human Rights Code to explicitly enshrine protections against discrimination for transgender people, had successfully passed in the House of Commons, only to die on the Senate floor when Harper declared a Federal Election (thereby dissolving parliament).

Is the timing of this disturbing and blatantly discriminatory regulatory adjustment merely a coincidence? That is up to you to decide. However, the negative impact on trans people is crystal clear, and we need to take action now.

(via grrspit)

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I always kind of interpreted it as “get out of my sight,” but there is also “go jump off a cliff,” that makes sense. Yeah our culture is definitely more squeamish about both “bad” words (like fuck) and sex than it is about violence.

Yeah, that was my real point (insofar as there was one).

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Okay so

A few minutes of googling is not turning up the connotations that my school “friends” attached to the idiom. Could just be that those people were particularly shitty, I guess.

Though, I mean, “take a long walk on a short pier” is related, and does seem to be directly telling somebody to kill themself, so…

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…wait since when is jumping in a lake suicide? (I mean if its being used to mean that, yeah that’s pretty fucked up; but I interpretted to mean, erm, swimming)

Maybe. But I rather vividly remember that the kids who used “go jump in the lake” would attach vivid death fantasies to it, so…

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Really bothers me how “go jump in the lake” is considered the “sanitized” version of “go fuck yourself”.

I personally happen to think that suicide is a good deal worse than masturbation, but obviously our culture disagrees.

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kiriamaya:

Reading some of the older online trans women’s resources (like, from the late ’90s and early-to-mid 2000s) is kind of an exercise in frustration for me. There’s so much emphasis on “passing”: what you should do to pass, what you shouldn’t do to pass, lots of judgey and victim-blaming bullshit towards trans women who aren’t trying hard enough (in the authors’ judgment) to pass, preachy screeds about how women who don’t pass “shouldn’t” transition (no, really, this is something actual trans women have said to other actual trans women), obsessing over hierarchies of transness based on passability, etc. etc.

And the sad thing is that this still happens. It happened today, to a trans friend of mine, who was told by another trans woman that she wasn’t “real” because she wasn’t working hard enough to “look female” (the fuck does that even mean?). I felt angry, not just on behalf of my friend, but also on behalf of the woman who’d been pushed by society to internalize that bullshit.

So, I mean. I’m not saying this to say that the women who said/wrote these things were bad and should feel bad. Hell, when I was first coming to terms with myself, I’d internalized most of that shit too. It’s hard not to, when cis bigots try to revoke your humanity the instant they find out that you don’t, or didn’t always, have the “right” body for your gender. And when you’re desperately trying to prove to such people that you’re not just some disgusting pervert, it’s very tempting to compare yourself to others who cis people might not perceive to be as “good” as you. I’m not saying that’s right, of course; I’m saying, I get it.

I can’t just say “but it needs to stop”, because, in order for it to stop, trans people need to understand that they have the absolute right to define themselves. And to do that, as many of us have already realized, we need to shift the conversation away from trans people “passing” and towards cis people misgendering and erasing — which, of course, ultimately leads to a conversation about cis-hetero-patriarchy and gendered power structures and the like. Why do cis bigots really want to take trans people’s identities away from us? ‘Cause it ain’t just because of how we look! That’s the sort of conversation I’d like to try to have.

Relevant to stuff I’m reading today.

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notthemarimba asked: just wanted to send some love and let you know you're in my thoughts. <3

Aww, thank you <3

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[trigger warning for eating disorders]

Those of you who’ve struggled with this: how did you learn to cope? I don’t mean trying to root out the cause; I mean, just day-to-day management. What strategies did/do you find helpful?

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Feelin’ girly as fuck today.

Wearing my awesome sequined flowery top.

If only I had a matching skirt and bracelets and shoes and possibly glitter :D