On another note, I am sick to death of cis people telling trans women to “toughen up”.
We are tough. We have to be. That doesn’t mean it’s okay to hurt us. And whether or not I’m able to “roll with the punches”, that does not change the fact that it’s wrong to punch me.
Goddamn.
Aaaaaaaaand now I’m sick. >_<
Dammit.
I know I’ve said it before, but staying hydrated while on spiro is one of the most annoying things about transition. >_< I drink literally gallons of water a day, and most of it just gets peed out, and UGH. I wouldn’t take this med at all if the alternative wasn’t worse.
I know this is nothing new to most of y’all, but I just needed to rant a bit.
because part of what radfems (and even white trans women) want us to think
is that the ideas radfems have
somehow exist in a vacuum
or that their claims on transmisogyny and trans women can be isolated and removed
leaving behind a reformed radical feminism
^^^Like really. What’s with all of that “radfems/transphobic feminists aren’t real feminists” shit. Ask any trans woman who experienced the consensus “real feminism” just like ten years ago. Are we to believe that magically TWoC are at the top of their agenda, and the last 40 years doesnt matter, and feminists are now the answer to transmisogyny?
Just cuz they’re disowning C**y B***n now and think about us once a year? Meanwhile, ”(white) vagina supremacy! All (cis white) bodies are beautiful! (Vaginal) sex positivity!” Like that’s also in a vacuum separate from TWoC?
I can kick it with a lot of feminists. Feminism gives me a good framework to understand my oppression. But its been 40 years since TWoC started your pinche queer revolution, and we’re still waiting for your real feminism to save us. Get your shit together and remember who died, and are still dying, for you. Remember whose deaths your ideologies and communities are founded on.
omg. YES
Honestly? it has all the stench of an accountability dodge
because if they call them ‘not real feminists’ then they have no responsibility to deal with them
^^^^^
Yes x1000.
If you present in a traditionally feminine way, you’re just being a misogynistic parody of a woman, and if you fail to present in a traditionally feminine way, well ha! There’s the proof that you’r…“Here’s the thing: People fucking despise trans women. Often the nicest thing they can thing of to say to trans woman is “gosh, you are so little like a trans woman!” Being trans is something to avoid, to exclude, to escape, at worst to nobly bare up under.”
wow.
Yep, that’s my life.
(And yes to the overall sense of this article. Fuck being “one of the good ones”.)
(via thinkingofthesea)
Hi everyone,
I’m getting over my shame and internalized ableism and asking for help. I’m a chronically ill unemployed trans gurl who just left sex work (as in, yesterday) because I finally lost my shit. I’m also moving out of my abusive household in June, around the 15th or so. I don’t have a place to stay yet so the more money I have saved up, the more likely someone is going to trust me to move in with them.
Thanks to sex work and friends donating, I’ve saved up $2,000 for deposits, first/last month’s rent, housing applications, etc. I’m trying to raise another $2,000 to get me through the summer. Starting September/October, I should be receiving financial aid from my university, so that will help.
To give you an idea of where the money is going:
- Rent for a shared room is $500-$550/month
- Utilities are anywhere between $20-$60/month
- I’m limiting myself to $100-$125/month for food
- Gas is $40 a full tank, so about a $80/month if I do this rightI’ll also be looking for a job at this time. I have an open interview tomorrow so hopefully I’ll get called for a second interview!
Important to note! My memoir, Trauma Queen, is aiming to be published on May 31st, 2013. It’s going to cost $20, so if you want to hold off donating to buy the book, that’s totally understandable. I have a collection of writing and art here (x) that you can read/watch, and a zine here (x). I’ll also be selling various articles of clothing, shoes, collector’s items, etc. in the next week or so.
Signal boosting would be appreciated, and any donations would be very helpful. <3
¡Gracias! / Thank you!,
Lovemme/Sirena-
P.S. (if the link doesn’t work, there’s a donate button on my page.)
Boost the shit out of this!
(via veeisagenderneutralname)
Somebody please encourage me to eat today. I’m relapsing and I don’t want to get back into the spiral.
…I passed English 111.
Despite the fact that I failed twice before because it was an English teacher who raped me all those years ago.
I. passed.
Like, I know it’s kind of messed up to use “overcoming” language when referring to disability (which PTSD certainly is), but… you know what, I did overcome something, and I’m fucking proud of it.
Hear that, rapist fucker? You are not holding me back anymore. I’m stronger than you; I’m better than you; I’m sure as hell gonna have a better life than you did.
Yeah, I’ll still get triggered, but just knowing that I’m succeeding and there’s nothing that asshole can do about it makes me smile, and gives me strength.
I’m gonna make it. I am. :D
