Back in the early 2000s, prior to transition, I was unable to access the books on gender in the library at the SFU Women’s Centre (this was before Nadine Chambers’ trans-friendly term), which delayed my coming out… as a woman. This delay had some psychological and medical consequences for me, and also prevented me from being able to fully be of use to my community.

Fortunately, I was able to find hep elsewhere - eventually.

For me, that’s still a raw point with conventional women’s organizing - even “trans-inclusive” organizations (I use scare quotes as “not kicking us out” is, in my opinion, not the same as “including us”) there’s still the assumption that it’s on trans women to sort out our gender issues Somewhere Else while cis women and CAFAB trans folks can use the informational resources and community for help. Once trans women have done the most gut-wrenching and often dangerous part, *then* we’re welcome to come in… for support. But that’s kinda late, y’know?

To question whether one needs a clear gender identity before accessing a gendered space (or at least for CAMAB folks) is a political frontier in women’s organizing. Disputing it is almost sacriligeous, at least judging from the reaction one gets. But it’s actually really weird when you think about it. Consider: we have youth programs that will admit trans girls, but they rarely have a mechanism in place so that trans girls can come out in the first place (and then survive), which means that even in trans-inclusive girls’ orgs, most trans girls are effectively barred from entry - not by the overt actions of the organization, but by its conscious inaction in the face of a hostile society…

A post by Amy Fox.

Damn right! Amy says it. I’d go further: we don’t just have to do the gut-wrenching and dangerous stuff before we come in, we have to be the best feminists before we come in, too. Cis girls and women can wander in clueless and get a good hearing, and other women will gently take them under their wings. Or at least not condemn all other cis people on that basis! But trans women - oh, we’ve got to have read it all, done it all, be able to say it all, and do it with a smile and a girly flick of our hair, or we are OUT because we are misogynist kinda-really-men-y’know-you-can-just-tell-from-how-we-sit?

And god help you if you don’t play the good token.

Yes! Wow. You can be on the party line for YEARS, helping those cis women out (best of all when you help them out against other trans women), but the moment you disagree or you want something for trans women (usually these two happen at the same moment) you are - BANG! - right to the margins. All those close political friendships tense and lock up all at once.

All too true. :(

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"Where are the beebies?"





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Stop Excluding Queer Trans Women From Queer Lady Spaces 2014


TERFs constantly push out queer trans women from queer lady spaces. This gatekeeping is really gross.

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The bad news:

  • Still struggling to even go to class, to say nothing of keeping up with the work
  • Still have trouble functioning well enough to even leave my room
  • Still scared that this could be my life from now on

The good news:

  • My financial aid came in, so I’ll have that to live on for a while
  • I am very much in love
  • I have awesome friends
  • I’m a lady


i need ferguson to go down in history books. i need school children in the year 2074 to learn about michael brown being shot on august 9th, 2014 by officer darren wilson. i need this to spark a movement. this can not lose the focus of society a mere month after it happened. 

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"It is not possible to be truly balanced in one’s views of an abuser and an abused woman. As Dr. Judith Herman explains eloquently in her masterwork Trauma and Recovery, “neutrality” actually serves the interests of the perpetrator much more than those of the victim and so is not neutral. Although an abuser prefers to have you wholeheartedly on his side, he will settle contentedly for your decision to take a middle stance. To him, that means you see the couple’s problems as partly her fault and partly his fault, which means it isn’t abuse."

"Why Does He Do That: Inside The Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft

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I have never seen the Neutrality Fallacy explained so succinctly before.

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"We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented." - Elie Wiesel

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(Source: fauxcyborg, via radtransfem)


stormingtheivory: just sent me a petition to demand that the US name a warship after Harvey Milk and if that isn’t the most succinct example of the way queer advocacy has been coopted by neoliberalism and the military-industrial complex, bless me I don’t know what is.

I just. Everything about that petition is gross :(

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tumblrfolk, we are so much more skilled than we think


one thing I want to say today relates to my current job. (As you guys know, I’ve left off working in science labs to work an office job in sci comm. My role is kind of … nebulous and involves a lot of “oh, Elodie can help you with that, she does weird stuff. Train Elodie on that.”)

Because it’s an office job, the mentality is for everyone to present their workflows as incredibly difficult and skilled, requiring a lot of training and experience to do properly. Which is fair enough! These skills are difficult!

"Elodie, today we are going to train you to use… A HIGHLY COMPLICATED AND DIFFICULT WEBSITE INTERFACE. You will need to take a lot of notes and pay careful attention, because it is extremely advanced. ARE YOU READY"

"… This is Wordpress."

"…No it isn’t! it says something different at the top. And it’s very complicated, it’s not something you can just know already."

"Nah son, don’t worry, it’s Wordpress. I mean, God knows I don’t blog much, but I can manage me a bit of Wordpress, it’s cool."

"No. You can’t. Don’t worry, it’s very difficult. Now sit still and be trained on how to upload a photo to Wordpress."

"All right."


"Elodie, do you think that you can MANAGE SOCIAL MEDIA? It is INCREDIBLY HARD and may involve THE HASHTAGS"

"… I think I’ll manage."


"Elodie, can you put a HYPERLINK in a thing? Think about it before you answer."

"Is it like a BBCode kind of thing, with the boxy bracket things, or do you want it in HTML, with like angley bracket things?"

"It is a button that you press that says HYPERLINK."

"I can do this thing for you."


"Elodie, can you write a punchy summary that will make people want to click on a special link that says "read more" to read all of the text?"



"Elodie, this is how to use TAGS on CONTENT. TAGS on CONTENT are important because - because of THINGS. Things that are too arcane and mysterious for anyone below the level of Manager to know."

"Cool, I can tag stuff for you."


"Elodie, this is obviously a ridiculous question, but can you edit videos?"

"Not very well, and only if you want to make it look like there is sexual tension between characters from different forms of visual media, or perhaps to make a trailer for a fanfiction? Which is not necessarily a good use of my time and I’m not sure why I felt it was so cool to do to begin with…"


"Actually, upon further reflection: no. No. Nope. I can’t edit videos. They’re completely beyond me. Not in my wheelhouse. Hate videos. Hate them. No innate skill whatsoever."

"That’s what we thought"


"Elodie?! You can use PHOTOSHOP?!"

"Yeah, I mean, I usually just use Pixlr. It’s free, it’s online, it’s powerful, you don’t have to download anything…"

"but you are not a GRAPHIC DESIGNER!!"

"Er… no."

"Next you’ll be telling us you can MAKE AN ANIMATED PICTURE."

"I mean, I haven’t really done a lot of it since Livejournal, and they weren’t that good anyway, but yeah… I can do you reaction images."


"Yes. Definitely."


What I’m trying to say is: a lot of people talk a lot of crap about what we Millenials do on the Internet, because there is NO CAPITALISTIC VALUE in the screwing around we do with our friends. “Ughh why are you ALWAYS on the computer?” our parents whined.

"How did you make the text go all slanty like that?" our bosses wonder.

We have decades of experience in Photoshop. We know how to communicate; we can make people across the planet care about our problems. We know how to edit media to make two characters look like they’re having the sexual tensions. We can make people read our posts, follow us, share our content. We run and manage our own websites - and make them pretty. We moderate conversations, enforce commenting policies, manage compromises, lead battles, encourage peace, defend ourselves from attack, inspire others, and foster incredible levels of communication.

We produce our art. We advertise our art. We engage with others through our art. We accept constructive criticism and dismiss destructive trolling of our art. We improve our art. Our art gets better.

We narrate our stories.

All by ourselves. Our pretty blog backgrounds, custom-edited themes, tasteful graphics, punchy content, clever gifs, our snappy putdowns and smart-ass text posts, even our familiarity with fonts and composition - all of these skills we’ve casually accumulated for fun/approval are MINDBLOWING LEVELS OF COMPETENCE IN THE WORKFORCE.

When these skills are sold to you - when they’re packaged and marketed, and when you pay to consume them and have the Elders rate you on them - they are incredibly valuable. They are Media and Communications degrees. They are marketing internships. They are leadership workshops. They are graphics design modules. They are web design courses. They are programming courses. We are good at this shit; we have it nailed down.

You can’t put “fandom” or “blogging” on your CV, but you deserve to. You should get this credit. You should claim this power and authority.

Claim these skills. They are valuable. They are important.

Everything you have ever done is a part of your powerful makings.

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an amazing thought


all trans women look like women. it’s impossible for a trans woman not to look like a woman.

(Source: cry-fuckboi, via labhag)



when i talk about trans women in media and in porn, i talk the way that i do because its painfully obvious that unlike cis women, its very likely that most people have encountered trans women ONLY through porn or other media.  and it shows when they actually meet us.  like, we can tell.

We totally can, and it’s gross :(

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